2012 New England Book Awards winner for non-fiction and a 2012 University Press Books Best of the Best selection
A chronicle of the profound, life-changing, and laugh-out-loud funny moments in the journey of an Alzheimer's caregiver
Kate Whouley is a smart, single woman who faces life head-on. Her mother, Anne, is a strong-minded accidental feminist with a weakness for unreliable men. Their complicated relationship isn't simplified when Anne exhibits symptoms of organic memory loss. As Kate becomes her mother's advocate and protector, she will discover that the demon we call Alzheimer's is also an unlikely teacher-and healer. For anyone who has faced and fought the decline of a parent or loved one, this book will touch your heart, make you smile, and, quite possibly, change the way you think about love, life, and loss.
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"A lovely, honest account of her mother's decline into Alzheimer's disease."—The Boston Globe
"In her often humorous and always compassionate memoir . . . Whouley hopes to transform how people relate to a loved one with Alzheimer's disease."—USA Today
“Reading Kate Whouley’s memoir felt like sitting down with an old friend over coffee...As a reader, I felt privileged to be on the receiving end of such a confidence, which concerns the most important issues: family, mortality, our aloneness in the world, our connection in the face of it. I read it in two sittings and turned the last page with regret.”—David Payne, author of Back to Wando Passo
"An exceptional memoir that reminds us—often with surprising humor—of the richness of life in good times and bad."—David Dosa MD, author of Making Rounds With Oscar
“Remembering the Music, Forgetting the Words made me want to go hug my mother. It also made me want to go hug Kate Whouley for her generous, fearless and spot-on recounting of a mother-daughter relationship during its most tragic yet poignantly beautiful years.”—Suzanne Strempek Shea, author of Sundays in America
“With books as her background and music as her guide, Kate Whouley helps her mother navigate the journey of Alzheimer’s. Recalling her mother’s impressive past, Whouley tries to reconcile her “new” mother with the old. Whouley’s straightforward, and at times, very funny take at her mother’s struggles and her own will strike home to many readers familiar with the caregiver role. Incorporating her life-long passion as a flutist, Whouley’s tone and reflection of music in every aspect of the journey fills the book with hope and, yes, joy. I hope I would be as graceful and kind if I ever become my mother’s support system. Full of mother-daughter issues, identity, grief, loss, along with lots of love, and enduring friendships, Remembering The Music, Forgetting the Words is perfect fodder for reading groups!”—Barbara Drummond Mead, Editor of Reading Group Choices
“Remembering the Music is a dance of a daughter’s spirit as she releases her mother (and the reader) to another realm.”—Joan Anderson, Author of A Year By The Sea
"Remembering the Music, Forgetting the Words is powerful, funny, sensitive, insightful and inspiring. As so many of us struggle to care for our aging parents, we can find reassurance in Kate Whouley's story. She shows us how the final stage in life can hold such wonder, and beneath the heartache-grace."-Brian Woodbury, Toadstool Bookstore, Milford, New Hampshire
"Kate Whouley recounts her Mother's journey into Alzheimer's with heart-wrenching honesty and heart-warming compassion. The book explores the complex relationship of Mother and child, the nature of friendship, and the world of aging and dementia. But ultimately, it's about what it means to be a caring human being. It made me laugh. It made me cry. It touched me deeply. I love this book."-Chuck Robinson, Village Books, Bellingham WA
"The loss of my mother many years ago still feels fresh, and l felt a little leery of this book. But once I picked it up, I could not put it down. Kate Whouley has written a book that feels like a friend's arm around your shoulder, comforting you when you need it most. I completely identified with Kate Whouley's plight and loved her writing. This is a book just about everyone can relate to and should read."-Keebe Fitch, McIntyre Books, Pittsboro NC
"I swallowed this book whole. Kate Whouley is a wonderful writer; the emotions sit right there on the page, waiting to be picked up and confronted by her readers. She is a born storyteller sharing a story all too common these days-children journeying with parents into the feared land of memory loss, wanting desperately to make the path as smooth and harmless as possible, and feeling thwarted at every turn by legal issues, the medical establishment, and the economic realities of aging. Although this not a happy story, in Kate Whouley's intimate and insightful telling, there are moments of pure hilarity."—Gayle Shanks, Changing Hands Bookstore, Tempe AZ
“In Remembering the Music, Forgetting the Words, Kate Whouley explores the mysteries of the human heart with wisdom and wit, giving us a story rich with kindness and comfort.”—Amanda Eyre Ward, author of Close Your Eyes