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My Father's Keeper

The Story of a Gay Son and His Aging Parents

Author: Jonathan G. Silin

An unprecedented telling of an increasingly common experience: a gay man caring for his elderly parents

My Father’s Keeper is the moving story of Jonathan Silin, a gay man in midlife who learned to care for his elderly parents as a series of life-threatening illnesses forced them to make the difficult transition from being independent to being reliant on their son. Their new needs and unrelenting demands brought parents and child into intimate daily contact and radically transformed what had been a distant and emotionally fraught relationship.

My Father’s Keeper chronicles the ways in which the ideas and skills Silin acquired as an early childhood educator, a specialist in life span development, and a compassionate witness to the devastation of the HIV/AIDS crisis came together with his interest in human psychology to deeply inform his thinking about the dramatic changes in his family’s life and increasingly influence his role as his father’s (and mother’s) keeper.
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“Jonathan Silin offers a series of valuable reports from what might be called the country of farewells, using his raw experience to explore important questions about childhood, education, parenting, privacy, control, mental health, old age, death, and forgiveness. This is a rich, careful, honest book, both nakedly personal and coolly philosophical. I’ve never read anything quite like it.” -Christopher Bram, author of Gods and Monsters

Reviews

Review by: Philip Huang, East Bay Express - June 28, 2006
"Silin achieves a rare balance between clarity and immediacy, universality and specificity, and this is a supreme work, a searingly precise investigation into the times when ambivalence must coexist with love."
Review: Bay Area Reporter - May 25, 2006
"…his story reinforces the importance in making every day, every second count, especially when those days are spent in the precious presence of the people who raised us."
Review by: Richard Labonte, Q Syndicate - April 4, 2006
"...an exaltation of family, of love, and of life."
Review by: Christopher Bram, author of Gods and Monsters - March 28, 2006
"Jonathan Silin offers a series of valuable reports from what might be called the country of farewells, using his raw experience to explore important questions about childhood, education, parenting, privacy, control, mental health, old age, death, and forgiveness. This is a rich, careful, honest book, both nakedly personal and coolly philosophical. I've never read anything quite like it."
Review by: Andrew Holleran, author of The Beauty of Men - March 28, 2006
"Primarily a search for the ethics of caretaking, and the boundaries that waver between parent and child when death looms, My Father's Keeper is also a book about a gay Jewish teacher who loses his own life partner while his parents are falling apart. Rich with the strange parallels between coping with young schoolchildren and 'the frail elderly,' Silin's conscientious analysis only makes the rocky decline of his two very real parents all the more moving. A wise, insightful book."
Review by: Terrence McNally, author of Master Class - March 28, 2006
"Jonathan Silin's story is uniquely his own but it could be yours and mine. Precious human documents like this prepare us for what lies ahead. They teach and they heal."

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My Father's Keeper

ISBN: 978-080707964-5
Publication Date: 5/1/2006
Pages: 184
Size: x
Price:  $23.95
Format: Cloth
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